As Discussed By Tina | Am I Too Old For Young Adult?

Posted October 15, 2016 by Tina in As Discussed by Tina, As Told by Tina / 20 Comments

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I want to say it began in the summer but in reality it is something that I have felt for a very long time. Am I too old for Young Adult? Have I outgrown it?

I’ve been reading Young Adult since I was about 12 when my mom introduced me Sarah Dessen and I’ve loved the genre ever since. But lately, I feel like I’m too old to be reading Young Adult.

The Beginning Of The Problem

I began reading a lot of young adult and most of them were hype books. I’m like years behind in hyped books so I tried to catch up. But a little into the summer, the books started blending together and many fell flat for me.

I felt like the each had the same plot, the same characters with different names and it felt like I had read this story a thousand times before.

I also felt like the characters were un-relatable. Is this because of my age or is it really because they are un-relatable? I’m ten years older than almost every YA character and I feel like now I can tell the difference because I question all their choices. Sometimes the 16 year old me understands the decisions but the 25 year old me just can see how dumb some of these choices can be.

Am I just too old?

Like I said I have read YA for years and it is the genre I read primarily. But now I’ve found myself reading New Adult and Adult because I feel like I can relate more to the characters.

I don’t really relate to the characters or the storylines anymore. I wish I didn’t feel that way about a genre that I love so much. It feels like I’ve been in a relationship with YA for a long time and now we’re growing apart. Do we break up for good? Or do we take a break?

Young Adult and I are taking a break

  • I will be mixing up my reading habits – I plan to read more of New Adult, Adult, Poetry etc..
  • Take a break from reading.
  • Read more backlist books because I’m sure there is hidden gems out there.
  • Binge watch a show on Netflix or any show really so I can really miss reading
  • Miss YA and try again later

Have you ever felt this way about Young Adult? Did you feel this way about Young Adult before you started blogging or was it after?


About Tina

Tina is a twenty something year old mommy of three and lifelong lover of reading. When she is not breaking up fights between her littles, you can find her binge watching a show on Netflix or pretending to organize her life in her bullet journal. But in reality she's just an organized mess.

  • I think I’d go crazy if YA was all I read. I often get frustrated with whiny, stupid teenage characters. I can usually read 2 books a week, so I try to read one YA book and one adult book. It works pretty well for me.

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    • i use to read YA all the time and never had an issue but now I think most of the characters can be so whiny and straight up ridiculous. I definitely need to try one YA book and one. Adult because YA all the time is giving me the worst slump ever.

  • I know exactly what you mean. I started feeling the same way a couple years ago, particularly with contemporary YA. I read it now and then, but I’m so much older than the characters that it’s hard to get into the stories. I’m drawn to adult books more and more.

    • So am I! I’ll read blurbs and think this might sound good but then I’ll start a book and realize it’s not what I wanted so I have to quit. I think I need to be more picky about my YA contemporary.

  • I definitely feel this way about YA and I think it is just saturation. I think it is best that you are rotating your reading now and will start cycling in some different genres! That will help keep everything fresh and new for you when you come back to YA!

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    • That’s actually what I plan to do because I feel like everything just meshes together and it gets so annoying. I also think being picky with the YA reads will help. We’ve all been burned by a book that was hyped then turned out to be a crappy book.

  • I TOTALLY get this. I’m in my 20’s too and while I love YA as a genre, I find myself turning away more and more from contemporary YA (especially if it’s set in high school) because I really can’t empathize with the characters, especially in terms of romance anymore. My old favorites still remain favorites, but I find myself rolling my eyes a lot more than I used to. Fantasy has still been ok because I think oftentimes the protagonists seem less “confined” by their age, if that makes sense?

    • That totally makes sense! I have noticed that contemporaries are the ones that I’m having trouble with again and again so I feel like it is a time to step back for now or maybe forever who knows. But I definitely understand in fantasy that it is really a different ball game so to speak because they aren’t “confined” to their age so I feel like I can connect better with them in some shape.

  • I’m in my 30s and loved YA. I still read it from time to time, but it’s not really my “go to” anymore. I’ve outgrown much of it, though there are still quite a few YA books on my shelves that need reading. I’m more cautious with any YA that I choose to read now.

    Great discussion post!

  • I have been feeling exactly the same recently! I feel like I cannot relate to characters in Young Adult at all these days! I’m so glad I’m not the only one. I’ve definitely been planning to read more New Adult now.

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    • I really felt alone in thinking I was getting to old for YA. I feel like maybe throwing in some New Adult and Adult can definitely help or even being picker with YA.

  • I’ve always thought YA characters make stupid decisions! That’s because they do. And is totally not your fault 😉

    Maybe mixing up your reading is the way to go – you possibly just need a little variety, and there’s nothing wrong with that 🙂

    Just read what you enjoy, when you want to read it – s’all good 🙂

    • Haha! I definitely feel like a lot of them do! I think back in high school and I’m like my parents would have never let me do any of this and I find myself thinking if anything like that could happen.

      I’m definitely mixing up my reading and found that it is helping. I had a period where NA made me roll my eyes like every five seconds and now that I’m reading all YA I find myself rolling my eyes at that so I feel like if I find a healthy balance between the two it’ll balance out? Hopefully.

  • I’m 25 as well. I’m also married. So I have such a hard time relating to characters just like you do. I also feel like SO MANY are very similar. The same general ideas kind of sprinkle all of them. I think I’m going to start mixing it up as well since I keep ending up in week long slumps :/ Ah, I don’t want to get older haha

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    • Yes! I picked up about 3 books during my slump and I swear it was like the same book but different characters with slight changes. I am definitely going to mix it up so that I can get out of this never ending slump. It feels like i’ve been in one forever.

  • I definitely think people’s tastes change as they age and the more that they read.

    I really like YA but in saying that I appreciate that there are different kinds of YA. I really enjoy the YA that have characters that are more mature than their age of 16-18 years old. Most of the time I forget they’re meant to be that young and I’m usually okay with that. But when I read a book that might accurately depict a 16 year old’s actions, I get so frustrated! So I can definitely relate with you saying that you think the decisions they’re making are silly and annoying.

    I also feel like that certain genres depict a younger YA, maybe contemporary YA? I’m not too sure cos I don’t read that genre much at all, all I know is that when I’ve tried to read it I’ve come away from the book feeling like the characters made stupid, immature decisions based on no logic etc. My favourite kind of YA is fantasy & sci fi.

    In saying this, I don’t much like reading the adult genre! I find it too heavy and I can’t relate to a lot of the characters because I’m not at that stage in my own life. If that makes sense?

    So I definitely think some people could be too old for YA while others feel like they relate to YA a lot more. Maybe you’re at a completely different point in your life and you can relate to Adult genre books a lot better?

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    • I totally understand, I still feel like I’m not “adult” enough to be reading adult because I feel like those characters are ones I can’t relate to either. I actually like to read New Adult because it’s just at that middle of YA and Adult and I feel like I can relate more to some of the storylines because they’re just starting families and everything like that and I understand that.

      I definitely agree, I feel that now that I’ve been reading and blogging my tastes have been changing and I have to be picker about the YA contemporary novels I pick up because some can be so frustrating.

  • I definitely think that people’s reading tastes can change as you age, and also the more that you read.

    I feel like there are different age ranges in YA too. I really like to read YA that has more mature characters than their 16-18 year old age. Sometimes I forget that they’re meant to be that young and I’m usually fine with that because I find it way more entertaining. But when I read a YA that may depict a 16 year old making a more accurate decision based on their age and their logic, then I get really annoyed and frustrated.

    I also think that there are some genres that may depict a younger YA? Like YA contemporary? I don’t read that genre a lot but when I do I usually walk away from the book feeling like the characters were immature and annoying. It’s actually the reason I don’t read that genre much at all. I have yet to find a YA contemporary I have enjoyed.

    So I can definitely understand when you say it’s frustrating to read characters that make stupid decisions!

    Perhaps you’re also at a different point in your life and can relate more to the characters in the Adult books? While some people can’t relate to them at all. Like me lol. Adult books are too intense for me and I usually find I can’t relate to the characters and their life decisions. Even though I’m 26.

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